National Spouses Day
Show appreciation for your life partner by reminiscing about your favorite memories, planning a getaway or trying a new activity together.
National Spouses Day is dedicated to recognizing spouses everywhere – from being thankful for the fulfillment and security of a long-term relationship to the boost in morale and well-being provided by spouses.
How to Celebrate National Spouses Day
This day is meant to provide a simple acknowledgment of the commitment and sacrifice it takes to be married. Because it happens in the middle of the dark winter, Spouse’s Day can be a great time to ignite a spark in a marriage, bringing some fun and light to an otherwise dreary season.
Consider these options for celebrating this day:
Go on a Mini Road Trip
Call a babysitter for the kids and make plans to take a little getaway! Even if Spouse’s Day falls on a Tuesday, it’s easy to take the weekend before or the weekend after to celebrate the day.
Drive somewhere away from distractions where it’s easier to focus on each other. Take time during the drive to share fond memories or talk about things that you appreciate about each other.
Making it a day trip means it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, but adding an overnight at a Bed and Breakfast could make it even more special and romantic.
A trip like this could be particularly special for those who are able to visit the place where they had their very first date, the place where they got engaged, or some other significant location.
Go Out (or Stay In) on a Date
Married partners can often take for granted their need to spend dedicated time nurturing their own relationship.
Kids, jobs and the busy-ness of life can take their toll on a marriage. Taking time to “date” a spouse might seem strange, but it is a vital investment for relational health and longevity.
Putting electronic devices away, plan to go on a long walk or hike (weather permitting), set up a picnic for two at a local park, enjoy a romantic candlelight dinner, peruse through a museum or art gallery, enjoy a botanical garden, take a tour through a brewery, or relax at a spa with a couple’s massage.
Whether simple or complicated, no matter what activity is chosen, the point is to do it together and enjoy one another’s company!
Take a Walk Down Memory Lane
Remembering why you got together in the first place is a good way to reignite the spark in a marriage. Get out the wedding photo album or peruse through snapshots from early in the relationship.
Listen to songs that were popular at the beginning of dating, or watch the first movie you ever saw together. Enjoy thinking back through the good times and commit to making more good times in the future!
Try Something Out of the Ordinary
One challenging thing about marriage relationships is when the regular daily grind turns life into something ho-hum and boring.
A great way to stir things up is to think creatively about ways to enjoy each other’s company by doing something atypical. Whether learning a new skill, taking an art or cooking class, or hiking a new trail, trying something new together creates opportunities to bond and renew the flicker of life in a marriage.
How to Appreciate Spouses Anytime
Building into a marriage isn’t just for special occasions. Every day is a great day to be appreciative of a spouse! Consider these reminders that can help instill health into a marriage:
Do the Little Things
Doing something nice for a spouse is a great way to show them they are loved. And it doesn’t need to be expensive or time-consuming!
Just being thoughtful and making a small gesture can be very meaningful. Try making a cup of tea for them, cooking their favorite meal, or suggest watching their favorite movie with them. Anything that might simply make them smile is worth doing!
Put Feelings into Words
Remembering to say “thank you”, “I love you”, and other words of affirmation to a spouse is important all the time.
Write a special poem, card, or letter that expresses deep feelings. Those who aren’t as creative with words might give a book of poetry, or make a special Spotify playlist of favorite love songs that give words to their feelings.
Build Something Together
Whether working a puzzle, assembling big-stack sandwiches, creating ice cream sundaes, or even playing with some Lego blocks, building something together can be good for bonding–as well as just plain fun!
Take pictures of the results, and consider ways that building things resembles the life that you have been able to (and will continue to) build together.
Read a Marriage Book Together
What could be a better gift to a spouse than investing in the relationship and working hard to improve it?
Even the best of marriages have ways that they can grow, so it’s great to put some effort into investing in marriage by reading one of these books and applying some of the fun and fruitful tips:
- Eight Dates by John Gottman PhD. This book features 8 life-changing, interactive activities that will build skills and inspire depth in even the most solid of relationships.
- Mindful Relationship Habits by S.J. Scott. Offering twenty-five habitual practices for couples to enhance intimacy, grow a deeper connection, and nurture closeness.
- What Makes a Marriage Last by Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue. Share in the joy of other married couples by reading their stories. Interviews with forty different famous couples, including Chip and Joanna Gaines, Ray and Anna Romano, and President Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter reveal secrets of these famous spouses that can be discussed together as you invest in your own relationship.
History of National Spouses Day
Marriage is an ancient institution that dates back thousands of years. Wedding anniversaries have traditionally been celebrated each year, but the idea of carving out a day specifically for all spouses to celebrate each other didn’t come into existence until much more recently.
Making its appearance somewhere around the early 2000’s, National Spouses Day seems to have begun in the United States and the United Kingdom, but has grown in popularity and is now celebrated by married couples all over the world.
Some people have attached some of the significance of this day to the origination of Military Spouse’s Day by American President Ronald Reagan in 1984. However, that day is celebrated in April and is limited to the spouses of those who serve in the military, differentiating it slightly from this event.
National Spouses Day FAQs
How does Spouses Day differ from Valentine’s Day?
Though often associated with romance, Spouses Day is a lower-key celebration.
Unlike Valentine’s Day, it encourages couples to focus on everyday appreciation rather than gifts.
Spouses Day invites couples to connect through quality time or shared hobbies, reflecting more on companionship.
This day is about recognizing everyday support and teamwork, not just romantic gestures.
When did couples begin celebrating “spouses” rather than “partners” or “lovers” in holiday traditions?
The term “spouse” became popularized in modern holiday traditions during the late 20th century.
While Valentine’s Day has roots in ancient love celebrations, the concept of a dedicated day for spouses specifically, not just romantic partners, emerged around the 2000s in the U.S. and U.K., likely as societal views of marriage shifted to emphasize partnership over traditional gender roles.
Is there a cultural or historical root to Spouses Day in other parts of the world?
Though Spouses Day is a modern holiday in the U.S., other countries have had similar traditions.
In Japan, for example, Husband and Wife Day on January 31st celebrates marital bonds, while South Korea honors couples on holidays like Pepero Day (November 11), where spouses exchange sweets.
These days reflect appreciation between married partners, echoing Spouses Day’s sentiments.
Are there any superstitions or myths about spouses celebrated on Spouses Day?
One interesting myth suggests that if a couple spends the entire Spouses Day together without any arguments, they’ll enjoy a peaceful year.
Some also say sharing a dessert on Spouses Day brings harmony. Although these superstitions are fun, they have no historical basis and likely developed as playful additions to the holiday’s spirit.
What are some unique ways people celebrate Spouses Day globally?
Some celebrate Spouses Day by writing love letters, a tradition especially popular in Italy.
In the Philippines, it’s common to cook favorite meals together as a sign of appreciation.
In Finland, couples often go for nature walks together, embracing the Scandinavian concept of “Friluftsliv” (outdoor life) to deepen their bond in a calm setting.
How did modern relationship science influence Spouses Day celebrations?
Modern relationship science reveals that expressing gratitude strengthens relationships.
Psychologists emphasize the importance of small, positive interactions, which has shaped the trend of celebrating spouses through acts of kindness on Spouses Day.
Many couples use the day to express gratitude, a practice proven to boost relationship satisfaction.
Why do some couples renew their vows on Spouses Day?
Renewing vows on Spouses Day has grown in popularity among couples looking to reaffirm their commitment.
It’s a less formal and often more private occasion than a wedding anniversary, letting couples reflect on their journey. This practice offers a chance to refresh vows with new insights gained since marriage.
Are there any interesting statistics about married couples that might be celebrated on Spouses Day?
Studies reveal that married couples who spend at least five hours a week together in quality time are often happier and healthier.
This statistic highlights the importance of regular togetherness, which Spouses Day encourages. Interestingly, couples who participate in joint activities report higher satisfaction in their relationship.
What’s a good Spouses Day tradition for long-distance couples?
Long-distance couples have developed unique Spouses Day traditions, like scheduling a video call to “share a meal” or watching the same movie together virtually.
Some even send “memory boxes” filled with items from shared experiences, helping them feel close despite the distance. These rituals create a sense of connection when physical closeness isn’t possible.
Is Spouses Day recognized by any official organizations or governments?
Spouses Day is not an official public holiday, but it’s widely acknowledged in the U.S. and U.K.
The day has gained informal recognition through social media and relationship advocacy groups that promote its importance. In Japan, similar days are celebrated by organizations that promote family unity and harmony.
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